Healthy Expressions of Anger

TRANSCRIPT

In this episode, I went into further detail for allowing and choosing the appropriate expression of anger. 

One of the tricks that can wrap us up and keep us disempowered is the notion that we aren’t allowed to feel or express our seemingly difficult emotions. You know, the emotions that others feel uncomfortable with – like anger. 

Now I know we discussed anger in our last session, but that was just the beginning. We talked about how anger itself is a valid emotion that we are allowed to feel, and that concept in the first place can throw people off. YES – it is okay to feel anger, it is okay to be angry.

I mean — look around, we have plenty of things to be angry about. There are terrible things happening all around us, and to bypass these things as though they don’t affect us or others is simply that – BYPASSING, which is one of the most dangerous things we can do in the face of injustice, chaos, pain, and manipulation. Bypassing this important emotion is THE reason why we get stuck in circumstances we hate to be in, feeling like we have no power to change or overcome the what’s triggering this emotion within us in the first place. 

That is a scary place to be — and can make us livid if we aren’t mindful about listening to ourselves and nurturing our sensitivities.

Let’s think about this – who taught us that anger is unacceptable? Usually, it’s those who are causing the pain, creating the chaos, or manipulating the circumstances for their benefit who make us believe we are not allowed to feel or express the anger that naturally comes with those things — at our expense, right?

So, with this being said, now that we realize that anger is an important part of addressing the illusions, lies, oppression, and pain we see and experience, let’s talk about how to allow and choose the appropriate expression of anger.

 

What many of us usually do is stuff our emotions, ignoring this key emotional guidance system, until we either explode or sink into some level of depression.

Instead, we can learn to catch this feeling early and address the issues in a more effective, healthy way. By understanding that anger is an IMPORTANT indicator of underlying issues we need to take note of and change, we can be compassionate with ourselves, and by ALLOWING ourselves to feel and assess our anger, we can then be mindful in our approach to the best solution. Sometimes it’s a simple statement, other times may require more extreme measures of expression…It depends on what’s happening but doesn’t always need to pile up until we become a volcano or tornado.

 So I want you to acknowledge a few things:

  1. Anger is an acceptable emotion
  2. Anger is sometimes the MOST suitable response to situations around us
  3. Without allowing ourselves to feel angry, we suppress who we truly are and what’s affecting us
  4. When we suppress our anger as though it doesn’t exist or isn’t allowed, we internalize heavy and painful feelings that are HERE to be addressed in the first place, which can cause depression, anxiety, fear, rage, confusion, psychological chaos, and even emotional pain that manifests itself into physical pain

 So how do we pick the correct expression of this deep and dense emotion before it spins out of control OR without letting it slide us into an oblivion of painful silence?

 Address things in the moment whenever possible – mindfully and honestly – even if your voice is shaky. Stop allowing others to determine how you’re allowed to feel, stand up for yourself and what you believe in, and when others don’t accept your concerns, understand that you do not need another’s validation. How you feel IS OKAY.

Those who dismiss you are not your authority, YOU ARE. What can YOU do to change the situation? Let your anger fuel that, versus fueling rage or depression. This takes patience, deep inner work, and can help you heal the traumas that create stuck energy and fear of your own emotions within.

Most people spend their lives thinking that their anger is an issue when really it’s the LACK OF HEALTHY expression when we see and experience injustice…and by not expressing our anger, we allow these things to continue, making us more and more upset.

Getting to the bottom of your emotions – the root cause – sitting with, observing and allowing them to guide your healing process, and NOT ignoring what’s happening within you will open new doors for you to truly determine what your next best steps are when you’re feeling out of balance.

 

Stay mindful. Breathe. Assess. And then trust yourself. There’s no need to be impulsive when we can take a step back and see from a higher perspective. From here, we can choose from the best possible solutions for each individual circumstance we are dealing with. Everything requires its own response.

 

Oftentimes, anger is here to tell us something isn’t right, something needs to change, and we need to be aware. If we are feeling it, it’s the time for us to acknowledge it, too.

That alone can direct you toward which levels of expression are BEST for each moment – not just of anger, but of other strong emotions as well, like guilt, shame, and fear. Rearching anger, and taking more time to learn what triggers you can be exceptionally helpful on your healing journey. But the first step is acknowledging that you feel this way, and it’s okay.

Let’s continue working on integrating and healing our emotions through sound healing with our root chakra. This is the perfect opportunity to relax and breathe, clear out the old restrictions, and begin receiving solutions.

I’ll see you for our next healing session.

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